Monthly Archives: July 2016

The effect of sexual abuse

images-24Sex expert Layla Martin has helped thousands of men and women across the country reclaim and revamp their sex lives. Watching her blog videos on how to explore tantric sex or master your pleasure zone, many people are surprised to learn she once struggled with sex for decades and is a survivor of sexual abuse, a traumatic event that can permanently scar individuals emotionally.

Thirty-two-year-old Martin was sexually abused by her father from age 3 until she was about 7 years old. She struggled with depression and broken relationships for years. To try to heal from the trauma, she used traditional and non-traditional therapies, some of which she learned about when she studied sexuality at Stanford University and in the jungles of Asia with tantric masters.

Fox News’ Julie Banderas recently sat down with Martin to talk about her story and how others can help rehab their lives in the face of struggle, too.

“[Sexual abuse is] one of the secret killers inside of people, and contributes to so much depression [and] self-hatred, they have difficulty with relationships, sexuality, finances,” Martin told FoxNews.com. “It goes so much deeper than most people realize … and I don’t think what we do as a society is as much as it needs to be to stop it.”

In the United States, one in two women and one in five men are sexually abused in their lifetime, according to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). One of the biggest challenges victims face is speaking out and admitting they were abused.

According to the National Sex Offender Public website, about 70 percent of sexual assault cases are not reported to authorities.

“I actually did try to tell my mother when I was young,” Martin said. “A lot of children they feel such shame and they take it on themselves, I certainly took it on as being my fault.”

When Martin reached her early 20s, she felt ready to share her story. Her journey to sexual healing started with talk therapy, but that only took her so far.

“I eventually realized that talking about it wasn’t quite enough,” she said. “It was really sitting in my body— it was tension, it was pain, it was numbness. So I went to Asia to actually learn the deep healing practices of tantra, and I spent about seven years working on releasing the trauma and the pain.”

Yoni Massage
Yoni massage was one of the practices Martin learned from her tantra teachers. She describes it as therapeutic vaginal massages performed by your partner or a trained practitioner— though she cautions her clients to be careful when choosing a specialist as there are many frauds in the business.

“It’s actually designed to be a healing and a release because so many women who’ve been abused, they never actually have a way to revisit the area and do really deep healing,” Martin said. “Yoni massage was really good for me to release the pain and tension that was inside my body.”

The reason of men die too young

The average life expectancy for men is 5 years shorter than it is for women, according to data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

The stat is sobering, but it can also be a wake-up call to take better care of yourself.

In light of Movember—the movement that encourages men to grow mustaches in November and has raised more than $700 million for men’s health since 2003—consider taking action.

Growing a ‘stache or donating is a great first step, but change can start closer to home, too.

Read on for five of the most important things you can do to prevent yourself from becoming a statistic.

QUIT SMOKING ALREADY

Smoking rates are at an all time low, but men continue to smoke more than women do.

In the U.S., 19 percent of men still light up, compared to 15 percent of women, according to the CDC.

The global disparity is even greater: Forty percent of men smoke worldwide compared to only 9 percent of women, the World Health Organization estimates.

It’s no secret that cigarettes are bad for your health. In fact, smoking can slash up to 15 years off your life, says Jessica Cook, Ph.D., an assistant professor at the University of Wisconsin’s School of Medicine and Public Health.

The good news, though, is that quitting now can greatly reduce your risk: Fifteen years after kicking the habit, your risk for heart disease mirrors that of a nonsmoker, according to the American Cancer Society.

Want to quit for good? The Cold Turkey Method Is the Most Effective Way to Quit Smoking, research from the University of Oxford finds.

CUT BACK ON BOOZE

Men are twice as likely to binge drink—downing 5 or more drinks in 2 hours—as women are, according to the CDC.

They’re also twice as likely to drive drunk, which puts them at greater risk for alcohol-related deaths and hospitalizations.

Heavy drinking can make you more likely to get cancers of the mouth, throat, liver, and colon.

Related: This Is Your Body On Booze

The best thing you can do is control your intake. If you don’t want to forgo booze completely, the U.S. Dietary Guidelines suggest limiting yourself to a max of 2 drinks—a couple of 12-ounce beers, for example—per day.

SEE YOUR DAMN DOCTOR

Men notoriously avoid the doctor’s office. In fact, nearly 1 in 4 guys haven’t seen a physician in over a year, a report from the National Center for Health Statistics found.

How to keep tracking your diet

unduhan-43Keeping track of the foods you eat is an important strategy for weight loss, but continuing to monitor what you eat is also important to prevent regaining that weight. Now, a new study finds that stopping food tracking is linked to regaining weight.

In order to prevent re-gaining weight, people should make an effort four months after starting a diet to refocus on food tracking, according to the study, presented here Sunday (Nov. 13) at the American Heart Association’s annual meeting called the Scientific Sessions.

The researchers found that people tended to stop dietary monitoring after about four months, and that this was followed by regaining weight, said Qianheng Ma, a public health researcher at the University of Pittsburgh and the lead author of the study.

The effects of food tracking, or “dietary self-monitoring,” on weight loss have been well-studied, and the technique is a key component of what researchers call the “standard behavioral treatment” for people who want to lose weight and keep it off, Ma told Live Science. This type of treatment is the most effective non-medical approach to weight loss, according to the study.

In the study, the researchers looked at data from 137 people who had participated in a one-year weight loss intervention called EMPOWER. The majority of the people in the study were white women. The participants were, on average, 51 years old and had a BMI of 34.1. (People with a BMI of 30 or higher are generally considered obese.) The people in the study were asked to weigh themselves regularly with a digital scale that uploaded data in real time and to monitor their diet using a smartphone app.

Although everyone in the study initially lost weight, nearly three-quarters of the people in the study ultimately regained some of that weight. In addition, 62 percent of the participants stopped tracking what they were eating at some point during the study.

The researchers found that a greater percentage of the people who regained weight had stopped tracking what they ate, compared with those who were able to maintain their weight.

The average time that people tracked their diet before they stopped was 126 days — in other words, they were about four months into their diet when they stopped, Ma told Live Science. It’s unclear why food tracking stopped at this point, she added.

People did not begin gaining weight immediately after they stopped tracking what they ate, the researchers noted. Rather, people started to gain weight, on average, about two months after they stopped tracking their food, the study found.